First time poster, but long time lover of reddit.
Looking for advice on dealing with subtle (but unmistakable) jealousy re: weight loss from people you consider close to you.
I’ve been plus sized my whole life (still am!) but lost a significant amount of weight last year due to taking up a movement practice that I fell in love with, and just making slightly better food choices, and lots of walking. I don’t weigh regularly myself and massive weight loss wasn’t really the goal - I just wanted to feel more mobile and capable. This resulted me in losing well over 100lb (started around 320 lb).
I’ve been noticing more and more these weird little competitive jabs from a few people in my life. Namely my sister. I’ve always been the fattest sibling, but she gained weight over time despite being pretty thin when we were young. I think she looks fine, but honestly, I’m not in the business of judging anyone’s body. I just don’t really care lol. But soon after I started dropping significant weight, she started exercising incessantly. Her husband even told me on a drunken night we all had together that she started working out bc of me. Now, I think we all take inspiration from the people around us and if I inspired her to move more; thats cool. But it seems like she’s competing with me and it’s making me uncomfortable. In fact, at the last family hang out he made a “joke” that we were competing w eachother on weight loss. It was…weird? There have been a bunch of little jabs she’s made about my appearance - almost like she’s trying to take me down a notch? And she’s just gotten really obsessive with exercise and will ensure to tell me how many people are commenting on her weight loss. If she’s happy, I’m happy, but the undertone of all of this is starting to make me feel weird. I know if I raise it with her, she’ll deny deny deny and it’ll cause a rift.
Any advice at all? This is making me feel crazy.
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