Make yourself a tea and get comfortable because this is going to be a long ride. Also sorry for any grammar mistakes, english is not my first language.
My dad is not obese but very overweight for someone that is very short like him (169 cm tall). Almost three years ago he came to Canada and lost a lot of weight because he couldn't afford to buy a lot of food, plus he was working while also studying. He put it back on 6 months later when me, my sisters and my mom joined him in Canada and every since then his eating habits kept getting worse.
He looks very stressed often and relies on food as a way of comfort. It doesn't help a lot that both my mom and my sisters are the type of people that can eat a lot without gaining weight; they keep buying junk food, candy, etc.
I have struggled with weight myself. I used to be very overweight too and I managed to lose some weight in a healthy way before I slipped down into anorexia. Even though I have fully recovered my family does not trust me when it comes to food or having a healthy lifestyle in general.
When they hear me mention ways to have a healthier diet or exercise they act as if I was advocating for my old disordered eating habits; which is why my dad never listens to me when I try to give him advice. Weight became a very sensitive topic between us.
They still have that old mindset such as: "You can eat whatever you want if you excercise a lot", "carbs are bad", "I can eat as much as I want of x food because is healthy", etc. He gives up because he sees no progress when it's pretty obvious that the quantity is the problem. He then starts complaining saying he's too fat, he looks awful, and it breaks my heart seeing him like this. He doesn't even want to appear in family photos anymore.
Everytime I ask him if he wants to go for a walk he says that he is busy. When I ask him if I can cook something healthy for us he says no. When I try to encourage him and motivate him he blames my mom on his weight gain and gives up.
How can I help my dad? I'm very worried for his health, both mental and physical. Any feedback is appreciated and thank you for taking the time to read this post.
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