For the first time, or at least the first time in a very long time, I'm truly making progress on my journey to be healthier. I'm following a keto diet and incorporating IF. I'm tracking my intake and I'm working out. I feel great. I know I have a very long way to go, but that's okay. I'm not in a race, and I finally know that I'm on the right path to long term success.
I'm dealing with a lot of negativity, but most of it is easy to block out. I have people telling me that keto isn't healthy or there's no way I'll sustain it long term. Some people say that running is stupid, others that lifting is stupid. I'm sure many of you here have dealt with the same things.
What's not easy to block out is negativity from people really close to me. My best friend has always been an athlete. He's married to a group fitness instructor. He knows how I've struggled over the years. His solution is always the same: it's all about working out, and specifically taking his wife's classes. He keeps telling me that tracking calories and measuring food is a waste of time, because if I just work out hard enough, the results will come. Me working out on my own is also stupid, because I'll never get as good a workout as if I would take his wife's classes. He's normally a pretty smart guy, but whenever I tell him that caloric deficit is critically important for weight loss, he gives me crap. We work together, and he's started making disparaging comments at our daily management lunch meetings about me packing my lunch. His attitude is starting to affect our 25-year friendship and it's really hard for me. I've always been fairly introverted and I don't have many close friends. I don't know how to deal with blatant negativity from him.
The other thing I'm dealing with is a bit more insidious negativity from my wife. I began this journey in earnest on 7/31. I made a commitment to not weigh myself until 9/1. When I weighed myself on 9/1, I was down 29 pounds. I busted my ass in August and I'm proud of the progress I made. My wife's first comment was supportive ("That's great!") and then she immediately followed it up with negativity ("It's so frustrating that you're losing faster than me! Why are you seeing more results than me?"). Her general tone since I weighed in has been more negative. I understand the frustration, but the fact is that I worked harder than her in August and I know there are physiological differences between men and women that can produce faster initial results in men. I'm also heavier and have more weight to lose than she does. Regardless, she knows how hard I worked and how much I've struggled over the years. I've tried talking to her about it. I've made sure to praise her hard work and I make sure I never rub in the fact that my progress has been fast.
How do you all deal with negativity from people when you can't just blow them off?
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