I wasn't too sure where to post this, and I thought this community seemed like the best place to ask about this.
So I've been maintaining now at about 170 lbs for the past 4 years or so(took me about 2 years to lose), anywhere between 12-15% body fat depending on how much I feel like eating. Over the years my diet has changed starting from CICO originally to optimizing it for health span and longevity.
I still weigh my foods most of the time, but I don't input in to MFP anymore and normally estimate calories doing mental calculations and I'm maintaining by eating somewhere between 2700-3200 calories daily (I'm very active). I stick to mainly high protein, high fiber, nutrient dense whole foods with low to moderate carbohydrates (~100g almost no refined sugar), moderate to high fat, that I have really learned to enjoy eating over the years and rarely eat out anymore. Mostly meal prep and eat home cooked meals.
These past 4 years I've mainly lived alone and have been focusing on my education, and just graduated with my degree and starting my career. I've actually started to put myself out there and opened myself up more to socializing and relationships and by the standards of the average person my diet is a bit much.
Honestly, I never bring up my diet or nutrition around people because at this point in my life people just see me as a fit guy and have no clue about my past. So bringing up nutrition around obese people I would end up feeling like I'm offending them. I also know that most people indulge on snacks or eat out very often and I'm just not sure how to approach this when it comes to establishing relationships.
The food I eat to me is very tasty, I love it and my taste palette has adapted for me to crave what I eat. Most of my family is still obese/overweight with health problems and whenever we get together and go out to eat, I will order a healthy meal and inevitably everyone around me gets salads and I could tell they're watching what they eat around me. I feel like people are on eggshells around me, and I never bring up my diet, weight or nutrition around them.
I'm also nervous that if I inevitably have women over or friends and I make healthy food for them that they will hate the taste of it, or might eat the food and not enjoy it, but pretend to enjoy it. To me the food I cook tastes amazing, but I also know whole foods is not part of most people's diets. For example, I used to hate the taste of tomatoes, but now I love it. I love getting really savory and juicy tomatoes in my salads and the only reason is because my tastes have adapted.
I'm scared that if I have a girlfriend that she will inevitably end up hating me because if she indulges on something and shares, I'll say no. Or if I'm always cooking healthy food she might not enjoy it and end up resenting me for it due to restricting herself around me.
I see too many people who get married and have kids and let themselves go. Or they get older and make excuses and I've told myself that I would never ever do that, because I grew up obese and know how difficult and unhealthy life is.
God, I'm not sure if I'm making sense. Thanks.
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